Soft Swap vs. Full Swap: Decoding the Lingo for Newbies
Ready to dive into the swinging lifestyle? Before you jump in, it’s essential to decode the lingo! From soft play to full swap, we’ll break down the key terms. Check out our Swinger Dictionary for every term under the sun!
By: Kat Swings
So, you’re dipping your toes into the thrilling world of swinging and feeling a bit lost in translation? Don’t worry! We’ve got the inside scoop on the swinger lingo you need to know to navigate this sexy social scene like a pro. From soft play to full swap, it’s time to decode the terms that will make your swinging journey a breeze!
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Soft Soft: A Tantalizing Taste
Let’s kick things off with soft swap. This is where the fun begins without diving into the deep end. Think of it as the flirty appetizer before the full-course meal. Soft swap includes kissing, touching, and perhaps a bit of playful oral exploration, but it stops short of full intercourse. It’s all about the anticipation and building that electric chemistry without going all the way. Perfect for newbies, soft swap allows you and your partner to get comfortable with the idea of intimacy with others without feeling overwhelmed. And no regrets!!
Full Swap: All In, Baby!
Now, if you’re ready to turn up the heat, let’s chat about full swap. This is the big leagues, where couples swap partners for a night of steamy fun. Picture this: you’re off dancing with someone else while your partner is getting their groove on with another. It’s all about trust, communication, and a whole lot of adventurous spirit. If you both agree to take the plunge into full swap territory, get ready for an exhilarating experience that will redefine your boundaries.
Share Your Fantasies and Listen to Theirs
This is where things get fun. Swinging is about exploring fantasies, so why not start with a casual chat about what turns you both on? Don’t dive straight into “let’s swap partners,” but instead, open the door to talking about fantasies in general. Maybe you’ve both secretly had some wild thoughts but never felt comfortable sharing them.
Once you start sharing, make sure you’re just as interested in hearing your partner’s fantasies. The goal here is to see if your desires align—and if they don’t, that’s totally okay too. Swinging isn’t for everyone, and it’s all about mutual satisfaction.
Other Swinger Lingo to Know
But wait—there’s more! Here’s a crash course in other essential swinger lingo that’ll have you sounding like a seasoned pro:
MFM: Two’s company, three’s a crowd – and in this case, that crowd’s getting down and dirty in the steamiest threesome around! An abbreviation for Male-Female-Male, referring to a sexual encounter involving two straight men and one woman, typically characterized by shared sexual activities and mutual pleasure where the woman is the center of attention.
- MMF: Not to be confused with MFM, this tantalizing threesome has two guys and one lucky lady turning up the heat and explore every spicy possibility in every possible combination. An abbrevation for Male-Male-Female, where both men are bisexual and engage in sexual activities with each other and the woman.
Unicorn: Not the mythical creature you’ve always dreamed of, but a single female who is often sought after by couples. She’s a rare find, and if you meet one, consider yourself lucky!
Ethical Non-Monogamy: The golden rule of the swinging world, where trust, honesty, and communication reign supreme in the pursuit of pleasure. This relationship model is characterized by mutual consent, honesty, and communication, allowing individuals to engage in romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners while prioritizing respect and emotional well-being.
Parallel Play: Side-by-side seduction for the ultimate tease, because sometimes watching is just as thrilling as doing. Couples engage in sexual activities with their respective partners in close proximity to other couples enjoying each other’s company while maintaining separate interactions.
Hotwife: The goddess of desire, indulging in extramarital adventures with her partner’s enthusiastic consent – because sharing is caring! A term referring to a married woman who engages in sexual activities with individuals outside her marriage, with the enthusiastic consent and encouragement of her spouse, who may or may not be present.
Dirty Vanilla: Like vanilla with a side of spice, because who says you can’t have your cake and eat it too? A playful term referring to individuals who engage in non-traditional sexual practices while maintaining aspects of conventional relationships or lifestyles.
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Finding Your Comfort Zone
When it comes to deciding between soft swap and full swap, remember that there’s no rush. Take your time exploring both options and finding what feels right for you and your partner. Discuss your boundaries, desires, and any hesitations you might have. The key is open communication!
Don’t Overthink It!
Finally, remember that swinging is meant to be fun, not stressful! There’s a learning curve, and it’s okay to make mistakes or feel unsure. Just keep the dialogue flowing with your partner and don’t be afraid to ask questions or clarify terms you’re not familiar with.
Whether you’re starting with soft swap or diving straight into full swap, knowing the lingo is your ticket to a smooth and sexy swinging experience. So gear up, chat with your partner, and get ready to explore the exhilarating world of swinging with confidence!
💋 Happy swinging!
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Soft swap: Getting oh-so-close to the edge without taking the full plunge – it’s like foreplay on steroids! A variant of full swap where partners engage in sexual activities with others, excluding intercourse, often focusing on kissing, touching, and other forms of sensual pleasure without penetration.
Full swap: When consenting adult partners trade places for a night of passion that’s hotter than a summer fling. Couples trade partners and engage in sexual activities, including intercourse.