If MFM is the fantasy where the woman’s worshipped, MFF is the fantasy where everyone’s turned on by each other—and the guy might just pass out from the sensory overload. MFF (Male-Female-Female) threesomes are one of the most iconic fantasies out there—and for good reason. Whether it’s your first time inviting another woman into the bedroom or you’re ready to chase that mythical unicorn, this dynamic can be just as emotionally connective as it is wildly sexy.
But here’s the secret – the best MFF threesomes aren’t about the guy’s pleasure. They’re about chemistry, communication, and making the unicorn feel like she belongs there. All this and more in our most recent episode of the Vanilla Swingers podcast.
What an MFF Threesome Looks Like (In Real Life, Not Porn)
Let’s be honest – porn has ruined a lot of people’s expectations around MFF. In real life, it’s not just a guy silently high-fiving himself while two women perform for him. In fact, some of the hottest MFF dynamics come from women being into each other, while the guy is an enthusiastic participant.
You might all be touching each other. You might switch who’s in the spotlight. Maybe it starts with two women kissing on the bed while he watches, or she teases your partner while you whisper in her ear. The beauty of MFF? It’s fluid. You can go slow, switch it up, or focus entirely on one person for a while.
There’s no right way—just your way.
How to Treat a Unicorn Right
Ah, the unicorn. She’s called that for a reason: rare, magical, and often misunderstood. If you’re lucky enough to meet one, here’s your cheat sheet to making sure she sticks around.
🦄 She’s not there to fix your sex life
Don’t treat her like a tool or prop. She’s a whole person with her own boundaries, fantasies, and desires.🦄 The woman should lead the energy
Nothing’s more off-putting than a guy who pushes too hard or makes it feel like a conquest. Let the wife/girlfriend take the lead in connecting, flirting, and creating comfort.🦄 Make her feel safe and sexy
Compliment her, check in often, and never assume she’s into anything without asking. Enthusiastic consent is hotter than any move you think you’ve mastered.🦄 Aftercare matters
A hot tub soak, post-coital pillow talk, a sincere thank you, or some friendly, flirty texts the next day—small gestures that show she’s not just a ONS.
Breaking the Ice (Without Being Cringe)
So, how do you go from flirty conversation to steamy three-way?
Start with good vibes. If you’re meeting in person, focus on making her laugh and feel welcome. Let the couple’s dynamic shine without making it intimidating. If she’s new, validate that it’s okay to feel nervous or curious.
If it’s online, don’t jump straight into sex talk. Build rapport. Ask about her turn-ons, her limits, her favorite experiences. And for the love of lingerie, don’t be the guy who messages “You down?” at 2 a.m.
Pro Tip: A little wine, music, and casual touch (think knee grazes or shoulder brushes) go a long way.
Hot MFF Positions That Hit Every Angle
Now for the fun part. MFF setups are versatile, but here are a few all-time favorites that keep things juicy and connected:
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🦄 Queen’s Chair: She lies back while one of you goes down on her and the other kisses, strokes, or whispers naughty things in her ear. Everyone’s engaged, everyone’s turned on.
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🦄 Double Cowgirl: He’s in the middle (usually lying down), with one woman riding him and the other straddling his face or kissing them both. 10/10 recommend for sensory overload.
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🦄 Side-by-Side Play: The unicorn and the wife lay next to each other while he alternates attention – touching, teasing, and making each feel equally wanted.
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🦄 Women First: Let the ladies explore while he watches. Kissing, touching, oral—whatever feels organic. Sometimes, the hottest build-up is letting him watch until he’s invited in.
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🦄 Tandem Tease: One woman is in control of the unicorn’s pleasure while the man kisses and teases the one in charge. A delicious loop of shared arousal.
Why Threesomes are the GOAT
Connection, Chemistry, and Consent
At the end of the day, an MFF threesome should be fun, sexy, and rooted in mutual excitement. That means:
Everyone knows the rules
No one’s left out or used
The energy flows with laughter, communication, and respect
Whether you’re chasing a unicorn or inviting a familiar friend into bed, the goal is the same – pleasure for all, pressure for none. So light the candles, pop the Prosecco, and remember—the best kind of threesome is the one where everyone leaves smiling (and maybe a little sore).
Find all of this and more on this episode of our top-rated swingers podcast for new couples to the lifestyle, the Vanilla Swingers podcast!
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Swinger Lingo (check Swinger Dictionary for more!)
Aftercare: The tender TLC and cuddles post-passion, because even the wildest nights need a gentle landing. This vital practice of providing emotional and physical support to partners after intense swinging or sexual activities, ensures partners’ well-being and nurturing their bond.
Bi/Bisexual: Loving all the flavors on the rainbow, because why limit yourself to just one gender when there’s a whole buffet of options? Short for bisexual, describing individuals who are attracted to people of more than one gender.
Threesome: The perfect recipe for a steamy night, where three’s never a crowd and every touch sends shivers down your spine. This sexual encounter involves three individuals, often characterized by various combinations of sexual activities and dynamics between participants.
FFM: Two fabulous ladies and one lucky guy—it’s his dream team, with all eyes (and hands) on creating unforgettable magic.
Girl on girl: The sizzling spectacle that turns heads and raises temperatures, because who says girls can’t have all the fun? A colloquial expression for female same-sex sexual activities or encounters, often used to describe lesbian or bisexual interactions.
Unicorn: The mythical and elusive gem of the swinging world, a single female who is open to participating in sexual activities with both members of a couple, often considered rare and highly sought after.